Greetings and Salutations to All my Spiritual Kin,
Wow…..!!!
Where to begin?
Many of you who know me already know the story this past month has held for me. For those of you who don’t, I will try to explain as concisely as possible.
It was almost exactly one month ago today that my daughter and I headed for my hometown, where this story begins its final chapter.
On the 7th of January, as my daughter and I drove to the monthly meeting of the Body, Mind and Spirit group we belong to, I made a call that set into motion all that has transpired in this last month for my family and myself.
My sister had called a few nights before to let me know that our biological mother had been taken to the emergency room after suffering a seizure. In the end, the diagnosis was an inoperable brain tumor; cancer. She was initially given three to six months to live.
My sister and I had been estranged from our mother for over ten years; the reasons of which I won’t go into. Even that being the case, she was our mother, she did give birth to us, we always did and always will love her, and all personal issues aside, we were not going to let her die alone.
I called my mother as I drove down the highway to the meeting, (using my hands-free, of course) and we talked and enjoyed the reunion. Two weeks and one day later, my daughter and I were on our way to sit vigil, at my mother’s deathbed, along with my sister who already had been staying with her on and off the past couple of weeks.
That was Friday, January 22nd.
My mother had come home from the hospital the day of the 7th and at that time, and even when I arrived, she was still able to take care of herself, cook, bathe, take her few pain medications, and putter around the house like always. Sunday, January 24th, she had a major seizure and I had to take over her care, including being responsible for her pain medication.
The progression of the cancer was so amazingly fast it was like being caught in a whirlwind; it took myself, my daughter, and my sister, whom was also still going to work everyday, to give our mother the constant care she needed. Every day she lost at least half of her strength and her pain medications had to be more than double every two or three days just to keep the level of pain bearable. Thankfully, the hospital had the foresight to have Hospice set in place before she was ever released to go home. I cannot say enough wonderful things about these Angels of Mercy. Truly, people who do this type of work and caring for others are a special breed of Angelic Beings manifest into human form.
Friday, January 29th, our mother had to be taken to the emergency room once again. At that point in time, we were going to have to have her put in a nursing home simply because she had progressed to a place where we could not take care of her physical needs without more help. But once again Hospice came to our rescue. She was given five days and nights in the hospital. She would have the care she needed, and we would have time to take care of all necessary arrangements.
Once again she took a turn for the worse, this time within a matter of hours. I called her younger sister, who had been waiting on the call that it was time to come, and by the morning of Sunday, January 31st, my sister was picking our Aunt up at the airport. We all stayed day and night at the hospital with my mother. My aunt said we must have looked like “settlers” moving in, we brought so much stuff with us to stay those five nights.
Wednesday, February 3rd, mother had to leave the hospital. Her “respite” time there was up. But her condition had deteriorated so quickly she was now completely bed-ridden. She was even paralyzed on her left side from having had at least two rather large strokes and an untold number of mini-strokes.
Just like most of us, mother truly wanted to be in her own home to pass. We wanted that for her too, and as strange as it may sound, with Hospice in place, and because she was now in a completely bed-ridden state, and with the addition of our Aunt to help in her care, we were now able to take her home to spend her last remaining days.
We did not tell mother she was going to get to go home to crossover to the other side until we were sure everything was set. As soon as the doctor gave us the okay we all gathered at her bedside and gave her the good news. She was so happy. With tear filled eyes and a laugh in her voice she kept saying, “I’m going home. I get to go home. I’m so happy I get to go home.” That was one of the most joyful and rewarding experiences I have personally ever had the privilege to be a part of.
That cold and snowy Wednesday afternoon the ambulance took mother home. She had a very good day Thursday, but by that evening took another turn for the worse. Her medication had to be more than quadrupled to keep the pain tolerable. Friday, she was comatose, and at 5:02a.m. Saturday, February 6th, 2010, at the young age of 66, mother drew her last breath in the physical. We opened the door in her room that led to the courtyard of the apartment complex where she lived, and in the crisp, early morning winter air, mother’s spirit jumped aboard the last moonbeam before sunrise and rode off into the stars.
As physically and emotionally challenging as sitting death vigil is, I must say this was truly an experience I would not have missed. My mother, my sister, my aunt, my daughter and myself shared in something sacred. We healed, we loved, we cried, we laughed and we grew in ways no other event or occurrence in physical manifestation could ever offer.
I offer my story to you to allow you to share in the experience of the emotional and spiritual energy created within it. And I gift you with sharing in the joy we came away with from this ride of a lifetime.
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With this chapter finished, I now move back into our daily routine and life. From here I will resume my daily gift of the “Daily Card” to all who pass here. This is the Dawning of a New Day.
Your Sister in Spirit,
In Lak’ech Ala K’in
Love, Light and Blessings,
Namaste
Essence Ka tha’ras
8 Comments
Ella · February 22, 2010 at 4:47 pm
I have not been to any of the meeting recently, but for some reason you kept popping into my head. This must have been the reason. So I thought of you and sent good wishes.
Funny how things work!
Ann · February 23, 2010 at 9:34 am
Thank you for sharing in your “sacred journey”. There is much to learn from your experience and insight.
Love, light and blessings to you and your family.
Ann
Helena Constance · February 24, 2010 at 11:45 am
as i finished with your story, i sat back, thinking to myself, how very refreshing it was to feel such emotion for you and your family, because of our cosmic link. to actully feel the huggs that were passed between ya’ll. the sadness, but at the very same time, the happiness of feeling that reconnection with your family. a reminder of what is truly important in this life….the love and the bond between family. especially the women in our lives. like looking into the very faucets of our wonderful goddess reflecting in our love for one another. i am so very glad your heart and soul were able to have that experience. it will be a memory most treasured.
very much love to you and your family,
Kiggana
Nancy · February 24, 2010 at 10:24 pm
Welcome home my Spirit sister. The journey you have just completed is as you said, “is a sacred one” and I am so glad that you experienced the bonding that comes when helping a loved one in their crossing. How wonderful that Desiree could share this journey with you. Ya’ll have both been in my thoughts and prayers since you left. The rollercoaster ride you’ve been on is like no other, sadness and happiness all swirling together as you process your grief while rejoicing in your mother’s freedom.
Your experience reminds me so much of the journey I took with my Spirit sister Donna when she was preparing for her crossing. In her case, it was friends who rallied and became her caregivers and it was a very special privilege to be there with her. The bonding shared with the other caregivers and with the one crossing can be hard to explain to someone who hasn’t experienced it. There were so many amazing and uplifting experiences that occurred, that to write it all down would fill volumes. One of my favorite memories is of Donna smiling from the hospital bed in her living room at the flowers a visitor had brought and telling them how pretty the flowers were even though she could no longer had the physical vision to see them. That was Donna, comforting everyone else because she knew that where she was going would be much more fun and that she wouldn’t REALLY be gone from those she loves.
You’ve also reminded me of my father’s crossing and how we didn’t really become close until his last couple of years. I will always treasure that time.
I’m glad you had this time with your mother and family, but I’m really glad your home. Thank you for sharing your experience with us and bringing my own blessings back to the front of my thinking mind. Give me a call when you can. I’m looking forward to giving you both a BIG hug when I see you next.
Love, Light & Blessings,
Nancy
Essence Ka tha'ras · February 24, 2010 at 10:39 pm
Greetings Sweet Spirit Sister of my Own Mother’s Name,
Thank you so much for the welcome home and for sharing your wonderful energy and experiences here with, not only me, but with all who passes this way also.
You are a true gift.
In Lak’ech Ala K’in
Love, Light and Blessings to You,
Namaste
Essence Ka tha’ras
Rainy · March 3, 2010 at 3:27 pm
Dear Essence Ka tha’ras,
You wrote the story of your Mother’s crossing like a song, a song to honor her and life itself. The love, understanding and power of this sacred time was palpable in your words and in between them too. Conscious crossing is such a gift for all. I hope your story goes far and wide as a gentle teaching.
My heart is warm with good memories of assiting my father in this way too. Thank you for sharing your intimate experience.
Much love, Rainy